If you are a solopreneur, building safety nets, emergency planning and forecasting for the what-ifs are as important as maintaining your values, authentically caring about the people you serve and staying true to you and your gifts.
These pillars help you navigate nasty surprises like the impact of heartbreak, divorce, grief, loss of home, or sudden changes in your health that force a hand you’ve been unwilling to play. Those things you never in a million years saw coming or expected to happen to you.
Life is like a rock tumbler buffing and polishing our rough edges.
Having these logistical pillars in place clears the path of distraction so that you can focus on the real work, becoming.
In 2024, I went through not just one of these times, but several simultaneously. I lost love and home at a time when my business was faltering, unlike it had ever faltered before.
As I approached my year of turning 60 I found myself starting over, emotionally, spiritually, physically and financially.
One of my coping mechanisms (and daily practice even when my world is calmer) is to write. I’d gone through hard things before but this time, I was truly beyond myself; everything I knew, had lived or ever been trained in felt like an echo, distant, hollow, and no longer useful.
This was the big one.
Then, in a session with my process-oriented peer group, Hecate emerged as my guide. I’d never heard of her before, but I described her fully. It was a bizarre experience and yet it was immediately clear that she had arrived to walk with me.
Like a soft, warm blanket placed gently around our shoulders or that instinctive tendency to adopt the fetal position when we experience anguish or terror, Hecate’s strange protection was felt and her guidance flowed through my pen to the pages of my journal.
By placing my existence in the hands of something ancient and wise beyond comprehension, it felt safe to surrender to the tidal wave of emotions I experienced, to dive headfirst into the waves.
As I wrote, I trusted that one day I’d see the clarity in what felt unclear, feel peace in the war that was waging inside of me and experience the beauty in the sorrow and confusion.
I had to go through it to come out the other side.
I trusted that the words I wrote would sparkle with wisdom one day. I wrote and forgot the pages, until this weekend when I was looking for something and stumbled across my words. Perhaps they’ll speak to you too.
What will become of me? I’m terrified, confused and heartbroken.
It was as if Hecate took my pen and wrote… You are no longer the person who holds things together in an old version of marriage, identity, and your business. The way forward this time isn’t a refreshed business strategy or renewed project design; it’s a fundamental shift in your way of being, encompassing the totality of your existence.
You’re becoming, profoundly emerging from an identity you’ve outgrown.
Your power lies in how you relate to uncertainty. Your gift is in helping others transmute their inner thresholds. You are a midwife for reinvention and this is your initiation now into a pivotal chapter of your life.
You are a threshold walker, you help people cross spiritual, emotional, and practical thresholds, especially around identity, meaning, security and legacy.
Think of this time as a sacred nesting, create your world now to fully nurture who you are becoming.
I indeed emerged from the pain and crippling anxiety, wiser, softer and deeply connected to my gifts and path.
What if your unraveling is not your undoing, but a catalyst to cross the threshold into the life that’s truest to your soul?
